I have been absent from my blog over the past few weeks. I had some wonderful things to share through the holiday season and I planned to be here often but life didn't allow me to do that. My dear, little mother's situation required much more attention than it had in the past and we were aware that she was declining more every day. Our attention turned to meeting her needs and making the holiday season the best it could be because we knew this would be the last one we spent with her. And it was!
My sweet mama quietly slipped into the presence of Jesus late on the evening of January ninth. We had planned to move her from her home this month because her needs were increasing so quickly that we knew we could no longer carry the full load in the best way possible for her - but she moved up instead! She is in Heaven with Jesus and with my father and my baby brother who died at birth. Mom didn't want to move from her home. Her heart longed to stay in her earthly home until she moved to her Heavenly home. When that day came she wanted to be surrounded by those who were dearest to her on earth. And that's exactly what happened!
My sweetheart and I stayed with her twenty-four-seven through the last weeks of her life. That brought such comfort to her and to us. It was very hard but we will always treasure those days with her. She was placed on Hospice for the last two weeks of her life so we had their incredible staff to help. Our daughter is a medical assistant with training and experience in elder and memory care. She has worked closely with Hospice groups through the past years. She took a leave of absence from her job in order to spend the last week of her Nana's life with her and to help us with the day-and-night care required. I honestly don't know what we would have done without her. Our son was there often, as was his sweet wife and, at times, some of our grandchildren. Our son and our daughter and my sweetheart and I were beside her when she walked through Heaven's gates. She was home at last!
Last Saturday we had a beautiful service to celebrate her life and ministry. It was a time to shed tears, pay tribute to a long life well-lived, share her favorite Scriptures and sing her favorite hymns. And there was laughter as we recalled memories of her fun, loving, creative spirit. We were surrounded and loved and hugged and prayed for by family and friends from near and far.
I am just beginning to process the loss of my dear mother. I have good days and I have days filled with poignant memories and many tears. My sweetheart and I are at the Oregon Coast for a week with our home-on-wheels and our little dog. We're taking time away to rest and begin to heal. We're parked above the crashing winter waves that sound like thunder when they hit the beach below. At night a string of lights line the dark horizon as crab boats brave winter seas to work their craft while we rest and sleep. As I write this post a pod of seals is floating on the surface just below the bluff where we are parked. God has a way of sending special things just when we need them most!
Oh my sweet, sweet and precious friend, I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your dear Mother but at the same time I am so thrilled WITH HER, that she is walking the streets of Gold with our Heavenly Father. God was so good to her and you all by allowing her to stay in her home as long as she did. He heard the many prayers of her heart and yours dear friend. Praying for our Lord to give you the strength you need as you journey yet another road of grief. It is surely a bittersweet time isn't it? You and your sweetheart was so good to your dear mama and our Lord will bless you beyond your beyond. Please know I am praying for you dear friend. Wish I could be there for you. But, I hope that you are feeling my hugs right now. Hugs and blessings, Cindy
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. We know your mom is in the best place but those left behind hurt. Please know there are many of us who care. I'm so glad you are on the Oregon Coast - it is one of my favorite places, a place I feel very connected to our Lord. ~Jeanne
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry for your loss. My Mother passed away a few years ago, at 101, she had a wonderful life and I was privileged to be part of it - I lived next door to her for a very long time. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her; her beauty, wisdom, grace and the legacy of joy she left. I know how difficult this is for you.
ReplyDeleteI know you have some wonderful memories to help you in your time of sorrow. Sending hugs.
ReplyDeleteIsn't is such a comfort to know she is in heaven?! I am so glad to hear that she was able to stay home surrounded by family and the angels from hospice. My sister and grandmother both passed this way and it was such a balm to my heart to know that we were together and that they did not pass alone in some sterile hospital room. I am also glad that this time away is a balm for your sorrow. Sending my love....
ReplyDeleteGod really does provide all that we need when we need it. He is never too soon, or too late, but always right on time. The photo of your mother is lovely. Her sweet spirit really shines through her eyes. Continue to enjoy the coast, Adrienne. Both you and your sweetheart deserve a break. Hugs, Nancy
ReplyDeleteSending much love to you....
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